On Valentine's Day
It’s really easy to feel down about being alone on Valentine’s
Day. Everyone else is feeling so happy and in love, and all you’re feeling is
alone. It can be a real bummer, and if you’re feeling crappy about it, I
totally understand. But you shouldn’t. You certainly aren’t alone. January is
the biggest month for breakups (including initiating divorce proceedings, true
story) so a lot of people are feeling this way. It’s also a real downer to hear
all about how cynical and angry people are. If I never hear “Singles Awareness
Day” again, it will be too soon. And it makes everyone sound so negative.
So what’s a girl to do? There’s no need to define yourself
by your relationship status. Love yourself on this day, rather than expecting
someone else to love you. Being single isn’t a curse or some terrible misfortune.
It’s just how life is right now, and it’s no fun to dwell on that. Instead it’s
a fun day to have a spa treatment all for yourself, whether you’re pampering at
home or at some ritzy establishment. Treat yourself to that $7 latte, because
you deserve it today.
It may seem impossible to some people to do things like go
out to dinner alone, or to a movie, but sometimes it’s nice to be able to
savour the day on your own. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy doing those things with
other people immensely, whether it’s with my guy, or just some friends. It is a
really liberating feeling to just date yourself though. I’ve met some of the most
interesting people while at the movies alone. For the record, I see a ton of
movies, and if no one can go with me, I don’t mind doing it by myself. The big secret is that no on really cares if you're there alone. They're focused on whatever they're doing, so they leave you be. As well, the wait staff are usually friendlier to people dining alone.
So what will I be up to tomorrow night? Right now I’m
working on a big, exciting (secret-ish) project, so that’s been taking up a lot
of my time, followed by dinner out with some girlfriends, then some relaxing at
home. It’s exactly what I want to do.
About that big project, I’ve been kind of touch-and-go
lately working on it, so if it takes me a little longer than usual to respond
to emails, then that’s why. My apologies, of course. Next week I have something
exciting planned that will hopefully make up for it.
Are you having a single Valentine’s Day? What’s your plan
for avoiding the blues?