On Valentine's Day
It’s really easy to feel down about being alone on Valentine’s Day. Everyone else is feeling so happy and in love, and all you’re feeling is alone. It can be a real bummer, and if you’re feeling crappy about it, I totally understand. But you shouldn’t. You certainly aren’t alone. January is the biggest month for breakups (including initiating divorce proceedings, true story) so a lot of people are feeling this way. It’s also a real downer to hear all about how cynical and angry people are. If I never hear “Singles Awareness Day” again, it will be too soon. And it makes everyone sound so negative.
So what’s a girl to do? There’s no need to define yourself by your relationship status. Love yourself on this day, rather than expecting someone else to love you. Being single isn’t a curse or some terrible misfortune. It’s just how life is right now, and it’s no fun to dwell on that. Instead it’s a fun day to have a spa treatment all for yourself, whether you’re pampering at home or at some ritzy establishment. Treat yourself to that $7 latte, because you deserve it today.
It may seem impossible to some people to do things like go out to dinner alone, or to a movie, but sometimes it’s nice to be able to savour the day on your own. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy doing those things with other people immensely, whether it’s with my guy, or just some friends. It is a really liberating feeling to just date yourself though. I’ve met some of the most interesting people while at the movies alone. For the record, I see a ton of movies, and if no one can go with me, I don’t mind doing it by myself. The big secret is that no on really cares if you're there alone. They're focused on whatever they're doing, so they leave you be. As well, the wait staff are usually friendlier to people dining alone.
So what will I be up to tomorrow night? Right now I’m working on a big, exciting (secret-ish) project, so that’s been taking up a lot of my time, followed by dinner out with some girlfriends, then some relaxing at home. It’s exactly what I want to do.
About that big project, I’ve been kind of touch-and-go lately working on it, so if it takes me a little longer than usual to respond to emails, then that’s why. My apologies, of course. Next week I have something exciting planned that will hopefully make up for it.
Are you having a single Valentine’s Day? What’s your plan for avoiding the blues?